Our Best Guide To Mutual Masturbation and Its Benefits

a couple in bed practicing mutual masturbation

In this blog, you'll learn

When you think about mutual masturbation what comes to your mind? Well, for me it was more or less like this: I masturbate my partner and they do the same thing for me. While this is also amazing, what we are talking about is a bit different. 

    Mutual Masturbation

    Mutual masturbation is when you masturbate yourself in front of your partner and they masturbate themselves in front of you, at the same time. 

    I bet many of you wonder why would you masturbate in front of each other when you could just have sex. We hear you. A recent study made with more than 2,000 UK adults by TENGA revealed that 51% of folks who are currently in relationships have masturbated while their partner was present. The other half never did it. If you’re in that latter group, here are eight amazing reasons to give mutual masturbation a whirl.

    Great reasons to try it

    1. It's a great way to get a thrill while keeping things chill - and terrific if you're tired 

    The idea of humping can be a little bit exhausting, depending on your day and/or mood. But indulging in some lazy-ass lust by snuggling in bed or on the couch with your partner can be a low-effort, quick-payoff way to enjoy some stress-relieving pleasure and savor an intimate moment when you’re feeling wiped out.

    2. It's one of the best forms of sex education out there 

    Hopefully, you know your own down-below like the back of your hand, and what buttons to press to feel good. And that makes you the best teacher for your partner on how to be touched. And vice-versa, of course! Mutual masturbation is the perfect live tutorial of your genitals. 

    3. It's safer in terms of STIs 

    Mutual masturbation is safer when it comes to STIs because you are not exchanging body fluids (theoretically). Keep in mind that there’s still a chance of transmitting skin-to-skin STIs, such as herpes, and it’s also possible to catch other infections if fluids are transferred on hands or sex toys. 

    4. It helps sustain long-distance relationships

    According to the TENGA survey, just over 1 in 10 people have masturbated with their partner over the phone or via Skype. It is an amazing way to keep the passion and fire alive while you are apart. The Chorus can help you to take your relationship to a whole new level. 

    5. You can show your partner how to use your sex toys

    This is the perfect time to show your partner how you like, and don’t like, to use your toys. The TENGA survey revealed that while three-quarters of heterosexual men have tried using a toy to please their female partner, only 22% of women have used a gadget on their partner. Mutual masturbation is the opportunity to level up those unequal stats and encourage your partner to discover alternative ways to stroke. The Tenga Eggs are great to introduce toys to someone with a penis. 

    6. If one of you is feeling hornier than the other, you can try the "pass"

    The ‘Pass’ means giving your partner express permission to masturbate, while you look on approvingly, on those days you’re just not in the mood. This is a way to be part of mutual masturbation without doing anything physical that you don’t feel up to. 

    7. Mutual masturbation can be oh-so-cozy, and kinky 

    Masturbating in front of someone can be really intimidating. It is a mixture of vulnerability and exposure because it is something hugely revealing.  After all you’re showing your partner something you would usually do in private. Mutual masturbation can build trust and feel incredibly connected with a partner.

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